You only need one logic ‘escape route’ from emotional panic to sanity.
Keep shopping until you find a truth that appeases your mind and let’s your crazy, sexy, cool shine. Here are some to try:
Nobody is thinking about you as much as you are. Most likely, the person you are chatting is too busy worrying if you are judging them. Furthermore, if someone is judging you, it is because they judge themselves. In which case, you should consider giving them love. It must be hard to be them.
Sasha Fierce it. Because of the roles you’ve assumed over the years, who you really are might be squished behind ‘smart, shy older sibling’ or your college banner or a mistake you made and the tension between that hodge-podged identity and your true self make you doub step in front of peeps. Try giving yourself the freedom to interact without clunky old associations.
What’s the worst that could happen? So they hate you. Oh well.
Find the funny. If your mind is quick, you most likely have a spunky imagination and an array of available perspectives. Look for something ironic, silly, or humorous about your current struggles. Think, Charlie Brown if Charlie Brown read Charlie Brown.