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Think about how you organize your thoughts regarding and act in the most successful area of your life—those same thought patterns and habits will work in the less than sparkly realms, too.

SURPRISE! You can paint everything wondrous with the same brush.

Great at biz, but sucking at bod? Attack fitness & nutrition like you would a new consulting project. Plan. Measure. Manage. Iterate.

Killing it with family, but can’t make money? Give it the same attention to detail and care. Hold yourself accountable. Think ahead of customers’ needs. Be there.

Why don’t we do this naturally?
My guess?
Blocks.
Big, ol’, beautiful emotional or mental boulders of varying shapes and sizes.

But fear not! If you’re ready, you can start renovating today.
No psychological-archeology tasks to perform.
You can simply choose to step around said blocks.
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Do the things and you’ll have the power.
#LIVINTHATCOPYNPASTELIFE

Often, it’s better to NOT ‘do’ than it is to ‘do.’ We rush about making messes cleaning up other messes, inadvertently creating a cycle absent of progress or meaning. Must you make so much money to buy things to make up for how hard you work to make so much money to ….? Become clear on what feelings you’re after, then make ‘do’ decisions accordingly.

No matter how hellish it feels, trust me, your world is not ending. Any time the skies are so dark that you can’t see your cute little paws, know great change is coming. Relax into it. Soon, the pain will stop. Turmoil will cease. You’ll rise from the ashes more alive than ever.

“Why are you unhappy? Because 99.9 percent of everything you think and of everything you do is for your ‘self’—and there isn't one.”- Wei Wu Wei. We live in an illusion of separateness, but not unlike great poets and sages have gorgeously pointed out — we are all drops of the same ocean. #playbigger

Be it now. Whatever you think you need to do/have before you can feel _______ is not true. With practice, you can learn to feel it now. Feelings are a result of perception. Perception is a result of focus. Focus is a result of unconscious programming or conscious choice. Study how to direct your mind and choose to impregnate the moment with meanings that free you.

Judging something negatively in another person actually means you’ve found a quality or behavior in yourself you’re wrestling. Practice compassion and you will be free to move forward.

Love. It is all love. No kidding. Somebody behaves in a way that is annoying, hurtful, or crazy to you? They’re scared, one way or another, about not being loved. Love them, without design or desire. It heals everything.

^same thing, but for you. In turmoil? Fearful? Sad? Approach it logically, when you’re ready, and find the fault in your thinking proof where you concluded your lifeline to love was at risk.
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The more you give, the more there is. <- The math you didn’t learn at school.

PLEASE WAIT. BELIEF SYSTEM UPDATING.

Why would you want to update your beliefs?

Other than for the fun of it, how about because of the anxiety or depression you feel because they are clashing with your current life sitch?

A hodgepodge of beliefs fence in (or out) our experience of life. I’m talking about how you think kitchens are best organized, the way you expect a friend to respond if you say you’re sad, what a marriage should look and feel like in year 2, who you need to be to do what you want to do, etc.

You’ve been collecting these, largely unknowingly, since your Est. date and many are so ingrained in your reality that you have no idea that you’re covered from head to toe in them. [“What’s water?”- little fishie]

Maybe there are some you’d like to upgrade. (I go over how to find them in my instagram video diary — D81 ;) shaylee edwards (@shaylee__edwards) • Instagram photos and videos )

Let’s use a scarf to highlight why you might want to:
Lucy grows up in Miami and everybody there wears scarves as tiny skirts. In her house, they tie ‘em a special way and she happens to think it’s actually the best way.
One winter, Lucy goes to NYC to see Beauty & the Beast on Broadway. She notices that the peeps there use scarves to keep their necks warm.
After college, Lucy moved to Cali and she saw that some women there used scarves to tie babies onto their bodies.
The same kinda scarf.
None of the uses is wrong, but until she saw them and opened up to the viability of each, Lucy would probably just go on using scarves the way she first unconsciously learned.

Think about this with relationships as the context.
Or your identity.
Or “work.”

The way you’re used to seeing things might be the only way you can currently think of them, but it might not be the only perspective that works.

I don’t think there are any unequivocally “right” beliefs, just some that align better with what you’re trying to do or how your life is currently.

If anything, I think the less hard-n-fast beliefs you have, the better.

Without rigid ideas, you can be more nimbly responsive in the wild.

Like most rules, beliefs are handy until you know them well, and can consciously and artistically choose unique responses as situations arise.

In upgrading them, it can be easier to go from one belief to one that’s just a little looser, rather than something completely revolutionary.

For a long time, I did this. I’d upgrade a belief to a less restrictive option, and then again as time demanded. And then again.

Eventually I realized that “It’s all good,” and “I can learn to do anything with practice,” are really the only ones I need.